Pain is outside events and people controlling your actions.  For some people, that’s not painful, but somewhat pleasant.  Not making decision, not living with the consequences of their actions.  Some people seek this out.  You do not.  You strive to answer the question “how can I better myself?”  One answer, for you, is to have your input into these external events.

You will never control all of the external actions that affect you, because we live in a society that requires a certai...